Saturday, December 23, 2006

Our Little Angel is with Jesus now

On Wed, Dec 20th, we went in for our regular OB visit. We were not able to find a heartbeat, and realized that our baby had gone to be with Jesus. That day, we admitted Cher to Northside Hospital for an induction (ie. to deliver the baby). Around 8pm, they started Cher on some medicine that would cause her to go into labor. This medicine was to be taken every 4 hours. They said it could take up to 2 days for the labor to begin. That night, the nurse on duty decided that Cher's contractions were too frequent and didn't give us our 4 AM dosage. The day nurse indicated agreed with us that our goal was to induce as soon as possible and that the contractions were normal and necessary. Around 6:30 PM Thurs night, the Dr decided that it was time to deliver the baby. Cher was a real trooper and pushed really well, but the Dr had to assist the delivery. I did my best to 'coach' her through it, but was mainly concerned about doing what little I could to make her comfortable, help her focus and push when the Dr said to. The baby was breached so the delivery was extremely difficult. After about an hour of labor, the baby was delivered. The placenta would not come out, so a DNC was necessary with general anethesia for Cher. Around 9:25 Cher was brought back to the room. The nurses did wrap our baby in a blanket and put a small gown and beenie on her before we saw her. Cher and I had a chance to hold and say goodbye to our little girl. We could see the extreme adema and knew that this baby was not meant to be part of this earthly world. God knew that it would be best for our girl to be with him.

As for our little Angel's body, we've decided on a Cremation Service that the hospital offers for still-birth children. The hospital created a small keepsake box, including baby pictures, footprints, and the baby's clothing as a small memorial.

As God did not choose to reveal the sex of our baby during the pregnancy, perhaps he never intended for us to be able to name our baby and get even more emotionally attached than we already were. Our "Little Angel" left us on Wednesday to be with God, and her earthly body will be cremated and given back to the earth with other little angels that were called away from us and other parents. Only God knows what our Little Angel's purpose on earth was, but we know she was part of his plan, and that even though we are saddened by our loss, we realize that this is all part of God's plan for us, and that we and others will be strengthened and somehow blessed by it.

The Dr indicated that the procedures Cher has gone through should not cause any negative effects on future pregnancies. As soon as we are both ready, we will again try to become pregnant.

Through this entire process we feel extremely blessed by the support and prayers that everyone has given us. This has and is still a tough time for us, and we ask that everyone continue to lift us up and pray for strength and peace for us. We were especially blessed by the presence of Kelly, Darlene and Miki at the hospital throughout this ordeal. Kelly arrived with us and never left our sides. She was our Angel of Mercy and Grace. We thank Kelly (aka Sissy) from the bottom of our hearts!! God has blessed us mightily with a strong family and large group of caring friends that have been there for us!! Thank you all for your prayers and the support you've given and continue to give!!

We love you all and wish you and yours a very Blessed and Merry Christmas,
Tom and Cher


Anonymous said...

Dear Cher and Tom,
Patrick and I are so sorry to hear of your loss. I am so sad for you, and I cried and cried when we heard the news. We had been keeping up with your pregnancy news, and although we have not been in touch in so long, we had you all in our hearts and prayers.
I can share in some of your sadness, as Patrick and I went through a miscarriage two days before Thanksgiving this year. I can't imagine what you all went through just now, but I do know that the best advice I received during our time of grief was to grieve when and how you feel led. I do know that our baby and your baby are playing in heaven together, and praise be to God that we have hope and that we know we will all be reunited one day.
King David's story has ministered to me as well...he stated that his baby could not come to him, but he could go to the baby. And again, praise God! We will be together forever!
We love you and if there is anything we can do for you, please let us know.
When you feel led to read this website below, it will hopefully comfort you as it did me. I know the Lord gave me this site as I was trying to make sense of what happened to us. We believe with you that the Lord will bless you with a baby to care for in this world soon.
God bless you,
Grania and family

Anonymous said...

Tom and Cher,

Vladimir have continued to pray for you during this difficult time. We ask that God gives you both an extra portion of His grace and peace during this season of your life. We hope that the New Year finds you both healthy and whole and when you are ready, and God's time is at hand, you become pregnant again, as you have indicated. Until that time, know that God holds your dear baby girl and our prayers remain with you both.

God bless you!
Heather and Vladimir Svidesskis

Anonymous said...

Tom & Cher,
I admire your faith and your trust in God. I know that He has His best stored up for you. The latter reign is greater than the first and I know the He will bless you for the testimony that you have provided to the choir and will undoubtedly provide to other parents who will experience similar circumstances.
Be blessed and we look forward to seeing you in the choir again soon.
Best wishes for a happy and prosperous new year.
Steven Schweers

Anonymous said...

I just wanted to let you know just how saddened I am for your loss. I know this has been a difficult time for the both of you, but God's mercy and grace will see you through. Although our prayers were not answered in the way we would have desired, you can take comfort that your "Little Angel" is being held in the arms of God. I will be continuing to pray for you, and please know you are loved.

Nathan Smith

Anonymous said...

Dear Cher & Tom,

I have also been praying for you and your child and was so hopeful that we would receive the "miracle' that we sought. Perhaps this is God's miracle because we can not see nor know all as HE can.

I know one thing that is certain, HE is still GOD and you have ministered to so many of us in your faith walk. You give strength and courage to many who may walk in this same path.

I have shed many tears ever since the e-mail came from Karen and my heart breaks along with yours.

I am so glad we have Christ, His word and His promises that will sustain you in the days ahead. His grace is sufficient, his Mercy new everyday and His lovingingkindness is forever.

Be covered in all these things and know how precious you are to us all.

My love in Christ
Barbara Prewett

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine how difficult it has been for you guys. Just know that your "Little Angel" is being taken care of in the hands of God and that she is looking down upon both of you. You will always have a guardian angel. God Bless.